Spiritually speaking, it is said that even before you were born, the name of your spiritual half has been determined. Each soul has a perfect match… your soulmate.
Although most people think of a soulmate as a perfect harmonious union of bliss, your true spiritual soulmate is the person who is intended to help you “complete yourself.”
was right – soul mates complete each other. A person is unable to complete his mission in life alone. Everyone needs someone to help them become a better person. This is not always a blissful experience.
Being in an honest, sincere, and committed soulmate relationship helps you to become a better version of yourself. You have to push yourself beyond your comfort zone, beyond your limits to find your better self.
Even though we tend to think of soul mates as a symbiotic union; soulmate relationships can be rough at the beginning. They can be like two jagged edged puzzle pieces trying to click into place. Sometimes it looks like you do not fit together at all, but soon after a little bit of twisting, turning, and flipping the pieces around, you feel the moment of the perfect click. It’s a feeling deep in your soul, that says, this is the right one.
Often soulmates appear in disguise. You might not be physically attracted to each other when you first meet, but there is a mysterious force pushing you forward that tells you this is “the right one” for you.
You have a personal checklist of everything you want in a partner. Tall- check. Dark hair (no curls please)-check. Blondes only-check. 6 pack abs- check. Or you can be like Jerry Seinfeld
who knows his date is not “the one” because she eats her peas one at a time.
So, if you are brave enough to move away from your romance checklist, open your eyes and your heart to unexpected possiblities, you might just be one of the lucky ones who finds their true soul match.
You know you’ve found your soulmate when:
1. You just know it.
Something deep inside tells you this is the perfect one for you. It’s as if there is a spiritual force pushing you to let go of everything you previously expected and to give of yourself completely.
2. You have crossed paths before.
Soulmates have met each other at a previous time. You may not have connected, but you were in the same place, at the same time. Before my husband and I met, we lived across the street from each other and worked across the street from each other. Yet we never met until the time was right.
3. Your souls meet at the right time.
Each person has to be ready to receive the soul connection. Even though my husband and I were in close proximity of each other for many years, we did not meet until the time was right for both of us. You have to be prepared to meet your soulmate. It could be that you have to go through a relationship that doesn’t work out, or that you’re not ready to ditch your “perfect person checklist,” but when it comes to soulmates- timing is everything.
4. Your quiet space is a peaceful place.
Being quiet together is comforting like a fluffy down blanket on a cold winter night. Whether you are reading in the same room, or driving in the car, there’s a quiet peace between you.
5. You can hear the other person’s silent thoughts.
With soulmates, there is such depth to your relationship that you can feel and hear what your partner is thinking, even if it is not verbally expressed.
6. You feel each other’s pain.
You stand in each other’s shoes. You know each other so well, that the second he walks in the door, you can tell how his day was. You feel each other’s feelings: sadness, worry, and stress. And you share each other’s happiness and joy.
7. You know each other’s flaws and the benefits in them.
Yes, it’s true. Our flaws have benefits. Every trait has a positive as well as a negative side. It’s the task of each person to always look for the good, even when things don’t look so good. There is usually a benefit to each flaw.Stubborn people
are good decision makers. Overly organized people are great at paying bills on time.
8. You share the same life goals.
You’re both on the same page with values, ethics, and goals. You may have a different way of reaching those goals, but you both want the same end result.
9. You’re not afraid of having a conversation.
Conversations can be challenging. Expressing concerns or attempting to make decisions is uncomfortable. Soulmates know that if they join together, they will be able to work it out.
10. You are not threatened by the need for alone time.
Whether it’s tennis three times a week or girls’ night out, you respect each other’s need for independence, knowing that when you get together, your time alone is special.
11. You don’t experience jealousy.
Pretty girls at the office or handsome personal trainers aren’t a threat to your relationship. You are secure knowing that you are the only one.
12. You respect each other’s differences and opinions.
You know you have different opinions
. Often soulmates are polar opposite. At times this is challenging. These are the times when you are being forced to let the other person complete you. You still have your own opinion, but instead of agreeing to disagree, there is a deep level of respect for each other. You listen and honor the differences.
13. You don’t scream, curse, or threaten each other with divorce.
Of course you feel the anger. People unintentionally hurt each other. But soulmates aren’t nasty, hurtful, or punitive.
14. You give in because you want to make your partner happy.
Giving can often occur in unhealthy, co-dependent, or abusive relationships. But soulmates give to each other for the sole purpose of making each other happy.
15. You know how to apologize.
It’s not easy to say “I’m sorry” or admit that you did something that hurt the person you love. Soulmates realize that their actions or words cause harm. Even if they feel justified in their point of view, if their partner was hurt by it, they can easily apologize for the harm they have caused.
16. You would marry each other again.
You know this is the one and only one for you. Even through the tough times, you would choose your partner again. You feel a sense of pride in your partner.
17. You complete each other.
Yes, I’m sorry to say it but, your partner fills in your blanks. No person is perfect. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. Soulmates complete each other. It’s the yin and yang of perfect harmony. One person may be the extrovert, while one is the introvert. One may be social, while the other a homebody. Soulmates are often opposite that are attracted to a person who has their missing pieces.
18. Being in each other’s arms washes away all your stress, worries, and anxiety.
There is no place you’d rather be at the end of the day but in each other’s arms. If you had a rough day filled with disagreements, a fight with your boss or if you missed the train, whatever happened is gone the second you cuddle up together. There is a warmth in your heart, an inner peace you can feel. No words need to be spoken. All that exists is the silent, blissful union of two souls together. Two souls that were meant to be together eternally.
Ed. Note: For this editor, the jury’s still out on soulmates. For the most part, I define the above list as a “healthy relationship” – which are about as hard to come by nowadays as a soul mate. Personally, the more I learn about the complicated and expansive nature of the soul and the infinite aspects of ones Oversoul, as well as the souls journey through universes and worlds it’s hard to imagination the “two aspects” in the soul mate equation can keep up with each other through all the migratoins and movement. Or, is the concept of “soul mates” just another matrix mind control “program” designed as another distraction to harvest time and energy, ultimately preventing us from becoming “complete”? Are “soul mates” just a reality limited to a souls journey on Earth?? What about aspects of ourselves existing in other realms, timelines and dimensions, do they have different soul mates? Geezuz…the whole thing gets really complicated when you really start thinking about it.
Seriously, if they exist…soul mates split off as two aspects from the Oversoul, one male aspect and one female aspect that journey through infinite lifetimes together playing a new role each life? Over lifetime, after lifetime disguised in countless skinsuits; travelling through different universes, realms and worlds together – yet born apart. Until fate brings two souls together again in the dance of life. The film Cloud Atlas masterfully took on the concept of reincarnation and how soul family’s travel together through lifetimes on different worlds masterfully. All star cast Tom Hanks, Halle Berry, Susan Sarandon, Hugh Grant and more. (5 Stars, personal favorite)
Sadly, many long to to meet their soul mate for a sense of completion, wasting enormous amounts of time and “energy” looking for love in all the wrong places. Trying to find the “One”…And I’m just as guilty as anyone else – been there, done that.
But what I’ve learned, is my sense of “incompleteness” attracted some very unhealthy relationships. And, before a “healthy relationship” could EVER appear I had to stop looking out ward for love and go within to heal my fragmented heart. To learn to love myself first and foremost. As I learned the true meaning of self love, the next step is balancing the Divine Feminine and Divine Masculine aspects and bring them together in Divine union. And that’s not as easy as it may sound, it’s a long journey. From my POV, it’s only when we are whole and complete in our heart-space, that we can allow and attract a soul mate in to our lives who “completes” us.