Being an empath can be physically and emotionally draining. Many people are unaware that they’re an empath and do not know how to cope with this ability.
1. Firstly, you should start to develop your “Shield Body”, this is your protection bubble around your physical body (everyone and everything is energy and what you think you create).
There is a layer of your aura that is devoted to your interface with your environment. Its shape and condition indicate your relationship to your world. People who are empaths often have a “thin skin” in relation to their shield body. When it has holes in it, we are more easily influenced by our environment.
2. Visualize your Shield Body
Visualize a shield of energy around your physical body. See it as being radiant and complete. You may see it as a particular color. Some people like to see it as white or gold. Decide what color would work well for you, and see it that way. Imagine the shield body as flowing and moving, not static. We are developing a shield here, not armor. It is good for it to be flexible, so you can let in what serves you, and keep out what doesn’t. Snap your fingers to hold it in place. Do this exercise regularly.
3. Center of Being
Once you have the shield body in place, imagine that there is a spark in the center of your being that is your pure essence. Focus your attention on the spark, bring all your senses to bear. Also be aware of your sensations, emotions and thoughts.
First try this when you are alone, and then, after a time, practice it around others. See if you can switch your awareness from your environment to your self, and back again. Notice the difference between the two.
4. Don’t Take On Responsibilities That Aren’t Yours
A person can get so used to care taking that they can feel as though they are supposed to do it. You are not. It is good to be as compassionate as possible without going beyond the limits of what you need to do to maintain your health and sanity. You are responsible up to that line, and not beyond it.
If you are an empath, your idea of where the line is might be a bit fuzzy. Once you get to know where the line is, your perception will change so stick with it. It will make all your relationships clearer and cleaner. Embracing your Dark & Light side without harming non ~ Empaths are often outwardly kind and caring. They usually get the benefit of everyone thinking that they are almost saintly sometimes.
It is easy to get attached to being the “nice guy.” It is not easy dealing with people’s negative emotions, but care-taking of others does not ultimately serve them or you. It does not help them to protect them from their feelings. It keeps them from growing up. Besides, it’s not real. It’s much better to live in reality than a padded reality.
Yes, they may get angry or sad at you or with you if you don’t do what they want you to do but people who control or manipulate are not centered themselves & feel they have no control, so they project this at us. But it is important to remember that their feelings are not your feelings, and your well-being is not dependent on their well being.
5. Develop & Open the Chakras
When you feel you have mastered the Root, Throat & Third Eye chakras you can go on to the other four – Sacral, Solar Plexus, Heart and Crown Chakras, but remember baby steps, one of the great quotes at Delphi in Greece – “Variety is the spice of life, Nothing in excess.” hence Balance.
Some exercises that help to enhance the chakras are:
6. Develop Your Root Chakra
The root chakra helps us to deal with being fully in the world. When the root chakra is open, we are fully grounded and present with whatever is coming our way. When it is not open, we can be dis~ associative, fearful, and have difficulty staying present with what is going on. Opening and healing the root chakra helps us to release the fears that keep us from our highest manifestation within form.
Imagine you are sending roots down into the earth from your base. Imagine you can breathe in and out of your root center. On the inhale, breathe in energy from the earth. On the exhale, release any thing that is within you that does not serve you out of the root center and into the earth. Or on a Beach feel your feet on the sand for grounding & breath with the waves coming in & going out.
Some healing stones that you might find helpful are: obsidian, obsidian snow flake, hematite red jasper & Kansas pop rocks. (provide good grounding of high energy states. these crystals are used for balancing and cleansing; removing blockages and to aid in healing.)
8. Smudging And Clearing Regularly
Whether you are having difficulty with your empathic abilities or not, it is a good idea to smudge yourself regularly to release other people’s energy and influence from your energy body. Smudging is a way to clear your energy by waving incense around your body. Sage, copal, frankincense, Nag Champa and Palo Santo are all recommended. Other good clearing methods are: showering, bathing and spending time in solitude at home, in garden or in nature.
For your home – open the curtains & windows for a while each day, sweeping, dusting, hoovering, shaking & patting things off change the energy of your surroundings. Plants, crystals / geodes, spray aromatherapy oils or crystal mixed water, incense & or candles, your choice, if left stagnant affects your living space.
9. Take a Clary Sage Bath
This is one of the single most effective things you can do to clear all that emotional funk away. And I do mean bath – a shower doesn’t permeate in the same manner. (Candles optional but not a necessity), just a nice hot bath and some privacy. Give it a good 15 minutes and you will feel much, much better. I recommend it before going to bed, as you can carry all that chaos & baggage through your sleep and still wake up with it, otherwise.
If you can’t find sage or Lavender bubble bath, it’s ok, I just really love the sage & Lavender they are very purifying as are natural Bath Salts/ sea salt or Radox. you can take a shower or rinse your body of with jugs of water after the bath & visualize the chaos & baggage of the day washing away down the plug hole. Also spiritually you can visualize being purified by waterfalls.
10. Feeding Your Root Chakra – Grounding
Root vegetables: carrots, potatoes, parsnips, radishes, beets, onions, garlic, etc.
Protein-rich foods: eggs, meats, beans, tofu, soy products, peanut butter
Spices: horseradish, hot paprika, chives, cayenne, pepper
11. Physical but not competitive exercise
- Tai Chi
- Walking Meditation
Find the decompressing routine that uplifts you most and make it a part of your lifetime routine.
12. Develop Your Throat Chakra
Sometimes an empath will know what they need to say or do to make good boundaries, but have a hard time following through in expressing it. The throat chakra is the center for the expression of personal truth. Through the opening of the throat chakra, we open ourselves to expressing our true needs and feelings, as well as expressing the creative force as it moves through us.
Some good exercises for opening the throat chakra are singing and chanting, sharing your feelings and thoughts with trusted friends friends who lift you, and meditating on the throat chakra. Some healing stones that help with the throat chakra are: lapis lazuli, turquoise, chrysacolla,amazonite, and blue lace agate. You can meditate with them, put them in a medicine bag, or wear jewellery (particularly necklaces).
13. Feeding Your Throat Chakra – Speaking One’s Truth
Liquids in general: water, fruit juices, herbal teas
Tart or tangy fruits: lemons, limes, grapefruit, kiwi
Other tree growing fruits: apples, pears, plums, peaches, apricots, etc.
Spices: salt, lemon grass
14. Develop Third Eye Chakra
For messages that come in Dreams, Visions and in meditation with Amethyst, Quartz or Lapis Lazuli under your pillow, on your third eye or hold in your hands. What you see will be personal to you so it could start with colours, shapes, patterns, symbols, music or full blown visions. Keep a journal of your experiences even if it doesn’t make sense at the time, later you will notice synchronicities happening in waking moments & in life. Useful Incense: Nag Champa, Frankincense, Lavender and Vanilla.
15. Support brain health
The third eye sits in the middle of your forehead between your eyebrows… right where your brain and pineal gland sit, also known as seat of the soul.
Support healthy brain function and you automatically support your third eye chakra
Get lots of Vitamin D, bathe in sunshine each day for 15 mins, even cloudy daylight is better than no exposure to the natural rhythm of day and night, healthy fats in the diet, coconut oil, antioxidants such as red wine / red grape juice (2 glasses a day), tea/coffee (no more than 3 cups a day) and chocolate! Also, seed & fish oil are all fabulous ways to boost brain health.
16. Feeding Your Third Eye/Brow Chakra – Awakening Third Eye Senses
Dark bluish colored fruits: blueberries, red grapes, black berries, raspberries, etc.;
Liquids: red wines and grape juice;
Spices: lavender, hemp seeds, poppy seed, mugwort;
When your third eye is open and receptive, you can reap the many benefits of a strong 6th chakra, which can include:
- Intuitive knowings;
- Strong memory skills;
- Empathetic connections;
- Deep wisdom and ability to find meaning in life events;
- Open mindedness;
- Powerful dreams;
- Mental stamina and easy meditative states;
Intuitive people tend to be quite empathetic, picking up on the energy of others, and so they can find crowds, smells, sensations, social interactions and public places overstimulating.
17. Honor your need to go within to recharge – there is nothing wrong with supporting your health by taking lots of down time in between work or social engagements. Get out in nature, even the garden is just as good, you could create a sanctuary with statues, garden ornaments, wind chimes wooden or metal, flowers & plants you are drawn too, rocks & shells you have collected.
18. Read lots of books, or meditate, listen to music you feel drawn to happy or sad as frequency healing is proven to be very therapeutic for your emotions, say no to social engagements that totally drain you and/or be sure to leave when you feel you have reached your fill… light candles, incense, use smudge sticks to clear out old energy from your living spaces… be aware of background noises that drain you (turning off a TV or radio that plays in the constantly in the background often has a noticeably positive impact on an empath)… unplug / switch off the phone.
19. Take the time to sit with your emotions and open to your own wisdom.
Emotional tracking! Support from others is wonderful and can be life-changing… but ultimately you need to connect with your own inner knowing in order to make that meaningful outlook last. Take all the time you need each day for solitude. This is not passive time… solitude is fortifying and strengthening to your third eye.
Wherever you are, stop what you’re doing for 5 minutes and just breathe. You should be inhaling through the nose and from the diaphragm. Slowly. And then you should be exhaling slowly, through the lips – don’t just open your mouth and blow it all out. Pretend you’re blowing on a cup of hot tea or coffee; that’s the kind of blowing you want. Slow and steady. Imagine that each time you inhale you are drawing all that chaos & baggage up to the surface, and then expelling it when you exhale. If you practice, that will be precisely what you learn to do, eventually. Do not overdo it initially – deep breathing can release all kinds of emotional junk you weren’t previously cognizant or mindful of and that will just make you feel worse, really, really worse! Remember baby steps, take it slow until you’re more skilled at it. A few deep breaths is enough when you’re just learning.
Use these steps to help bring you back to Awareness of Self.